Road Trip...

ROAD TRIP…. So one of my good friends NB got transferred from MD to Cali… so Me, NB and my girl AB are all taking a road trip… her company is moving everything but her car, so she has to drive… and well we’re gonna make an event of it… So we gonna make it a 6 day drive from MD to Cali, driving about 6 to 7 hours a day… and chillin the rest of the time.. NB’s company is paying for everything, including the cost of gas and hotel… so all me and AB are paying for is food along the way… So, the drive is roughly a little over 3000 miles… yeah I know, that’s a crazy amount of miles to drive… so here’s a where we plan on stopping at first night in W.VA or KY for the night then we’re off to Memphis to go see civil rights museum and/or Beale Street… then off to Oklahoma City, OK to see bombing memorial and then do some country line dancing (yeah right?!?!)… then off to Santa Fe, NM to see some Pueblos and buy some silver/Indian tapestries…. Then of course we have to stop in VEGAS baby, we’re gonna stay in Vegas the longest, for about a day and half to have ample time to gamble, drink and BS… u know what they say… "what happens in Vegas stays in Vegas!" … then on the 6th day we’ll take that 4 hour drive to LA… hang out in Hollywood, eat dinner and Walk down the "Hollywood Walk of Fame" then move my friend NB into her apartment… on the 7th days, me and AB head on a plane back to MD… I’m so excited about this trip, its gonna be so much fun… I can only image the craziness that will occur over this 7 days trip… we leave next Friday… so one week til we leave for our Road Trip…

And well, its happened again…. I’m falling for him… the only exception this time is that I actually see a future with him... him would be the Accountant… my Accountant… have been spending some quality time with him and just getting to know him…. And the more I know about him, the more I like him… only time can tell what the future has to hold for me and him… but I certainly hope that the future is bright… I’m gonna miss him while I’m on the road trip… that’s a whole week without seeing him… and the most we’ve gone without seeing each other is about 2 or 3 days… but absences makes the heart fonder right???

Misperception...

Do u ever wonder how other people see you or perceive you… I mean, do you ever wonder what others, who don’t know you, think… what concept of you have they built in their minds… everything in this world is about perception… How some one acts, how you perceive it and how you react… I’ve heard all kinds of things about me… Some people think I’m stuck up (what, little ol’ me… talk to me and you’ll know I’m as silly as it gets )… some people think I am conceded (Damn, I do look good, but I’m by no means vain or anything… wait, did that sound conceded to you)… someone told me I was spoiled (hello… I am the last born, but I do work hard as hell to get what I want and to get to where I am)

Anyways, I guess it’s all about how you carry yourself and what other people assume about you… I know a lot of people in this Nigerian community around here and a lot of people know my family, and its just odd the perception that people have… I guess we all do it though, cause often I get an opinion of someone in my head, and I start to view and make an assessment of them without really getting to know them…

Through one of our many convos, the Accountant proceeded to tell me that I’m am completely different than what he thought or expected of me… he thought I was stuck on myself, spoiled, conservative and all this other stuff… and granted when I used to see him around, I just always thought that he was a very conservative, serious, straight laced guy… well, he’s not…. And each time we hang out, he surprises me again, its always a pleasant surprise…

I remember I was at my good friend, JB’s, cookout and I was making drinks for everyone and JB introduced the girl he was talking to me, and since JB is one of my very good friends (he’s my best male friend), a friend of his is a friend of mine, and I’ll especially be nice to the girl he’s talking to… so anyways, JB was playing host was quite busy, so I made it a point to check up on the girl thru out the cookout… I mixed her a drink and everything and was just being me in general… she kept saying thank you… the next day JB told me that the girl talked about me non-stop after the cookout was over, that she liked me and that I was so nice to her and that she didn’t know that Nigerian girls could be so nice… I didn’t think I did anything out of the ordinary for me, I was just being me… and I guess Nigerian girls don’t have the best reputation of being the nicest girls… so I guess its goes past perception but also to stereotypes… how can u assume that I’m not gonna be nice to you just cause I’m Nigerian and I'm female… but then again, I know my fair share of Naija girls, and I understand where the girl got that idea from…

Ultimately, I’m not really concerned about what other think of me, but every once in a while it does cross my mind… and sometimes it’s nice to fix those misconceptions, such as in the case with the accountant…

BBall Tournament...

Thank goodness the weekend is finally here… and somehow this week, I’ve managed to find my desire to blog again… seeing as though I actually put up three posts this week…
Anyways, I dunno if any of you all following college Basketball… but I do and I’m excited that the tournaments have started…. Went to hang out with the Accountant last night, and we were watching the tournaments… the ACC tournament is my personal favorite, seeing that I went to an ACC school and there are some strong rivalries there… well… Duke, MD, and Georgia Tech all got knocked out of the first round… Talk about exciting… yesterday was history in the ACC tournament, all lower seeds won yesterday, ensuring that its gonna be a very interesting ACC tournament… the best game yesterday was definitely the Wake Forest vs Georgia Tech game… Wake Forest really deserved that win… I mean they gave a lot of heart, even in double overtime, but to be honest they could have really won the game in regulation time… anyhow, the Tar Heels (UNC) are up first today (my personal favorite team)… and they playing Florida, should be a good game… them Tar Heels better win… If u're into basketball... who r u routing for to win???

In my rambling about the basketball tournament, did I mention I was watching it with the Accountant… and it was a lot of fun, although we were routing for opposite teams, which actually made it more fun… but it was a good time… and did I mention had he managed to make his move on my after us screaming and hollering at the Wake Forest vs. Georgia Tech game…

Anyways… this weekend is my little nephew’s (FB) birthday party… he’s turning two years old in a few days… Man its amazing how much things have changed in the last two year, I can believe how much he grown and how smart he is… So I will be spending my Saturday afternoon at Chucky Cheese’s at his birthday party… and to be truthful, I’m quite excited… now I know Chucky Cheese’s is for kids but I’ll fit right in (I’m truly a kid at heart), its gonna be fun running around playing games… and well the whole family will be there, so I can only imagine how much fun its gonna be… busy weekend, so I probably won’t see the Accountant this weekend, but we’ll see…

I love you....

How soon is too soon to say those three little magic words that every girl wants to hear… I guess it depends on the person and the situations… but sometimes it’s just to early, at least in my opinion, to say those magical words… (side note: I can count the amount of guys I’ve said those words to on one finger, because I think its takes time to really love someone… and it takes a little longer when you’re young or inexperience with relationships) anyways… my friend AG (I’ve known AG for about 7 years now… we met that first month of freshman year back in late summer of 2000… anyways, she’s one of my very good friends and one of the few people I talk to frequently although we live quite far apart)… anyways, AG met this guy in the beginning of January, they went on their first date the second week of January and they became boyfriend and girlfriend about a month ago… and the other nite, her boyfriend told her he loved her… and she said thanks…. She said thanks not because she being mean or rude, but she wasn’t ready… she’s had a lot of experiences with relationships and I think she’s learning not to jump so head deep into them and to take her time to get to really know the other person… now she sent me the text about what he said moments after he said it, cause he stepped out the room to go to the bathroom… however we didn’t get a chance to talk about it til the next morning… Now, I know she likes her bf and all and I’m sure he adores her… but its hard to really believe that someone can fall in love with some they’ve known for less than two months… I simply think its lust and infatuation… and no I’m not a skeptic on love and relationships, cause at the point when I met and was dating one my exs, L, after the first month I thought I was head of heels, but I forced myself to step back and realized that its just all apart of the excitement of a new relationship and finding some I clicked with so well, so I understand where he’s (AG’s bf) coming from, but I think it was a bit premature for him to pronounce his love already… but to each his own I guess… its just been on my mind since AG told me about the whole thing…

I mean, no one can really tell you when you’re in love, I feel like you just know… but I don’t think it possible to love someone you don’t really know yet… and I doubt he knows AG as well as he thinks he does… I’ve known her for 7 years and I’m still discovering things about her… granted me and her have a different relationship then they do, but I know it takes more than two months to really know a person… but I do think he cares about her and believes that there’s a future for them, which is cool…

Like I said, I guess it’s different for each person… but how do you know you love someone or are in love with someone… and would you, if you were a female, every say it first to the guy…

this weekend...

This weekend was interesting… After a few weeks, I finally got a chance to say a final goodbye to my friend that passed away. We had the body viewing/service on Friday evening and then a his wake on Saturday evening… man, it was so difficult to see him lying in that coffin, he looked so different… it was so sad… Saturday afternoon before his wake, I was just remembering all the good memories that I had about him… I remember for the time we met, he was hitting on me… and it was hilarious, we met at a party one weekend, when I came home to visit from school… well, he didn’t realize who I was, you see he use to talk to my older sister briefly (but me and him never actually met cause I was away at school, but I had heard about him and seen a picture so I knew who he was)… so for half the night I had him guessing who I was and when he finally realized it, it was just hilarious… and ever since then he adopted me like a little sister… I’ll never forget the day I met him… may he rest in piece…

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So, you know how you know people, but you don’t really talk to them… people that you say hi and bye to in passing but never really have a conversation with… well, there’s this guy that I see around occasionally, I’ll call him the Accountant, that’s what he does for a living… and we always say hi and bye and just left it to that… but then he sent me a message on Hi5 last week, saying he wanted to say hello and he hadn’t seen me around in a bit… anyways, we started emailing back and forth, then started talking on msn messenger… then of course we eventually exchanged phone numbers… then the texting started… then the phone conversations began… and then we made plans to get some drinks (but they got cancelled cause one of my friends needed me)… and so we made plans to together sometime soon… and yeah I was a little excited… excited about the possibility… cause he was always someone that I thought was cute, but since we never said more than the polite hi and bye, I never thought he was interested… still not sure if he really is, but I’m leaning towards that he is interested… well sometime soon became Monday evening… so I went to his place and we just hung out… I was there for a couple of hours… we watched TV, but mostly talked and he showed me some pictures… I found out a lot about him… he’s a really cool guy… told me bout his previous relationships and the drama… I told him some stuff about me, but not much, I was more interested in learning about him… besides I’m shy (why does NO ONE believe me when I say I’m shy???) anyways, I had such a good time with him… it was just really relaxed and he was really easy to talk to… and then he was telling me about his original perception of me… that he thought I was this stuck up chick (for various reasons) and that he never realized that I would be fun to hang out with and so on and so on… now, this isn’t the first time I’ve heard that, but people take my being shy and being stuck up or whatever…

Ok, let me explain… I’m one of the biggest extroverts that I know, but I can be very introverted as well. On a one to one basis with someone that I don’t know I will tend to be a little shy (I know I have a big personality (and can be extra at times) and I don’t like to overwhelm people)… but in a group of people, even a group of strangers, I’m in my natural setting of being completely ok with being the center of attention… once I feel comfortable around you, whether on a one to one basis or in a group setting, you’ll find that I am generally an extrovert, I’m very outgoing and sometimes loud… but that’s me…

But I digress, anyways… chilling with the Accountant was a lot of fun… and he’s a really sweet guy… a few minutes to midnight, I decided it was time for me to go home since I had to be up early… we left things open and said that we should hang out again soon… and I hope its sooner than later…